LOVE AND ATTRACTION DIFFERENCES

Love and attraction differences. People often misunderstand their attraction for someone as love and vice-versa. Physical attractions are common, but a real connection is rare, if you find it, hold onto it. Both love and attractions are related to each other yet different in many ways.

Sexuality has been attributed especially to youth for biological, psychological and social reasons. In fact, when we think about sexuality, libido and desire come to mind. Obviously it is the drive that lead us to search for contact and sexual interaction, but love and attraction differences will depend on the duration and constancy in time.

This feeling has a strong biological root (so in adolescence, with the increase and hormonal changes, one lives very intensely). How it is lived (it can be controlled, guided, given different meanings) and how it is satisfied (it can drive us to seek sexual satisfaction or not. The desire to hug and be hugged and caressed, have fantasies, or perform certain sexual behaviours , depends on many personal, relational and cultural factors.

ATTRACTION VERSUS LOVE

The differences between love and attraction can be difficult to identify at first. When you are attracted to someone, you will be thinking about the person all the time, even to the point to become sometimes an obsession. Attraction has normally a hidden motive unlike love. And, ones this motive or desire is fulfilled, you lose the interest in that person and you won’t even miss that person.

However, love is somehow unconditional and not followed by any personal need. It makes the person we fell in love with seem irreplaceable. It is exclusive, unique, in the sense that “only that person” can satisfy us.

Falling in love produces a state of fascination that prompts us to surrender and intensely desire that the feeling be reciprocated. When we fall in love, everything revolves around that person: we fantasise, we are interested in the person, we give the best of ourselves. When you are in love with someone, you miss him/her even after years in case of break-up or separation.

We know that these states appear and have their peak at the biological level during youth, when reproductive capacity is greater and the woman is fertile. However, the sexual drive that leads us to feel attraction or in love is not exclusive to youth.

Although the reproductive capacity disappears, in the case of women, with menopause, this does not happen with the ability to desire, feel attraction and fall in love. Like women, men’s sexual ability is directly related to their previous sexual life. Therefore, our right to pleasure is not limited by age. It will largely depend on the quantity and quality of sexual relations that have been maintained during youth.